Suspend Your Opinions
Practice detachment, focus on what you can control
Hello friends,
Welcome back to another edition of Riley Writes. Let’s have fewer opinions. BTW, I’m definitely stealing this from Ryan Holiday on a recent Daily Stoic podcast
Ryan highlights how we often get caught up in other people's business, whether it's judging someone for their actions or trying to control their decisions. But the truth is, we can't control others. More importantly, it's not our place to do so. Instead, we should focus on what's in our control, our own thoughts and actions.
Ryan notes, having fewer opinions allows us to live a happier and more peaceful life. It gives others the space to make their own mistakes and learn from them, without our interference. So let's take a step back and focus on what we can control.
Here are my key takeaways from the podcast:
Be aware of when you're getting caught up in other people's business. Are you judging or criticizing someone for their actions? Are you trying to control their decisions? Recognize when you're doing this and bring your focus back to your own life.
Practice detachment. This doesn't mean disconnecting from others or ignoring their feelings, but rather detaching from the outcome of their decisions. Recognize that their choices are not a reflection of you and let them face the consequences.
Focus on what's in your control. Instead of getting caught up in others' actions, focus on what you can control in your own life. This might mean setting goals, practicing self-care, or working on personal growth.
Remember, having fewer opinions is not about being indifferent or apathetic. It's about recognizing what's in our control and focusing our energy on those things. Let's practice detachment, focus on what we can control, and allow others to make their own choices.
MTFBWY,
Riley.
I had never run across Ryan Holiday before. Thanks for for the reminder that nothing is ever quite what it seems to be.